Friday, September 4, 2009

A New Earth continued....

  • The particular egoic patterns that you react to most strongly in others and misperceive as their identity tend to be the same patterns that are also in you, but that you are unable or unwilling to detect within yourself. Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another is also in you. But it is no more than a form of ego, and as such, it is completely impersonal. It has nothing to do with who that person is, nor has it anything to do with who you are. Only if you mistake it for who you are can observing it within you be threatening to your sense of self. 
  • Whatever you fight, you strengthen and what you resist persists. 
  • Whenever you feel superior or inferior to anyone, thats the ego in you. 
  • A very common role is the one of victim, and the form of attention it seeks is sympathy or pity or others' interest in my problems "me and my story". Seeing oneself as a victim is an element in many egoic patterns, such as complaining. 
Views on parenthood:
  • If you have young children, give them help, guidance, and protection to the best of your ability, but even more important, give them space - space to be.
  • The belief "I know what's best for you" may be true when children are very young, but the older they get, the less true it becomes. The more expectations you have of how their life should unfold, the more you are in your mind instead of being present for them. (Amazing point if you ask me......).

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